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Is it Lying or Loving?
by Susie and Otto
Collins
At our workshop this week, the women in the group all
agreed that they grew up with the expectation that they would be
"nice" and make everyone in the family feel good.
They were not taught to speak their truth but rather hide what they
were thinking in order to keep the peace.
Most people believe they are being loving when they
withhold perceived unpleasant information from their partner, spouse or
friends.
So the questions is--do you tell that other person
how you feel in all situations? If
you don't, is that being loving or is that lying to the other person?
Bell Hooks, in her book "All About Love,"
would say that it's lying. She
says, "Lying has
become so much the accepted norm that people lie even
when it would be simpler to tell the truth."
She goes on to say that "In today's world we are taught to
fear the truth, to believe it always hurts."
We have found that when you tell the truth, it may
hurt. But when you are completely open and honest, it is ultimately
freeing for both people, giving you the opportunity to deepen your
connection.
Some of you may question this--but we feel that if
you are in a spiritual partnership with the intention of growing together,
there simply is no other way. Bell
Hooks says that "it is impossible to nurture one's own or another's
spiritual growth when the core of one's being and identity is shrouded in
secrecy and lies."
The lies don't even have to be that big to drive a
wedge in a relationship. Just
not being forthcoming with your feelings is living with a lie and will
ultimately create a separation.
In last week's newsletter we quoted David Viscott--
"If we were to live honestly, our lives would heal themselves."
Hard as this seems, we believe it's the only way to live.
We've done it the other way and now we're trying to do it
differently. Our experience
tells us that when you communicate constantly openly and honesty, that's
what builds safety and trust. That's
what creates the real juice in any great relationship!
Susie and Otto Collins
P.O. Box 14544
Columbus, Ohio 43214
614-459-8121
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